I asked my colleague at work the other day:
“What do you like to do outside of work?”
And she looked at me, laughed, and said:
“I don’t know! What do I do? I don’t have a bike, or a horse… or anything!”
I felt SO relieved by this response. You know why? Because I don’t have a hobby either. Sure there are things like going shopping, or grabbing a drink with friends that I enjoy but I don’t think those can be considered hobbies.
I’ve spent the better part of my last 28 years trying to find my hobby. I’ve tried: skating, hip-hop (yes–it’s true), singing, piano, soccer, working out, yoga (my yoga mat caught on fire), writing poetry, guitar and painting. I’ve even hired people to help me get good at these things like a personal trainer and a guitar teacher, but still… nothing stuck.
So, while writing this post, I looked at my long list of tried hobbies and I thought to myself:
“Why can’t I just do it? Just pick one and get passionate!”
The truth is, passion doesn’t work like that. You can’t just force yourself to be happy doing something, while the whole time you are just waiting for it to be over. That’s not passion, that’s just–well, I don’t know what it is, but it’s not nice!
People always try to motivate me by saying things like:
“Pick a job doing something you love”
“Follow your passion and you’ll have a great life”
But what if I don’t know what that is? What if I don’t have a passion or a hobby? Am I doomed to a passionless life!?
At least now I know I am not alone. A couple days later, my colleague who confessed she had no hobby forced herself to workout and then texted me to tell me that her body is rejecting the exercise and she can no longer move. But, hey– at least she tried right?
I think it’s important that I keep trying new things in search for the hobby that sticks so that I don’t become complacent in my life and settle. I might be still in search for my hobby, but the journey finding one isn’t all that bad and it has at least given me a few laughs along the way.
Do you have a hobby that you are really passionate about, or are you still in search of that one true passion? Tell me about it in the comments down below!