Confessions of a Hobbyless Person

I asked my colleague at work the other day:

“What do you like to do outside of work?”

And she looked at me, laughed, and said:

“I don’t know! What do I do? I don’t have a bike, or a horse… or anything!”

I felt SO relieved by this response. You know why? Because I don’t have a hobby either. Sure there are things like going shopping, or grabbing a drink with friends that I enjoy but I don’t think those can be considered hobbies.

I’ve spent the better part of my last 28 years trying to find my hobby. I’ve tried: skating, hip-hop (yes–it’s true), singing, piano, soccer, working out, yoga (my yoga mat caught on fire), writing poetry, guitar and painting. I’ve even hired people to help me get good at these things like a personal trainer and a guitar teacher, but still… nothing stuck.


So, while writing this post, I looked at my long list of tried hobbies and I thought to myself:

“Why can’t I just do it? Just pick one and get passionate!”

The truth is, passion doesn’t work like that. You can’t just force yourself to be happy doing something, while the whole time you are just waiting for it to be over. That’s not passion, that’s just–well, I don’t know what it is, but it’s not nice!

People always try to motivate me by saying things like:

“Pick a job doing something you love”


“Follow your passion and you’ll have a great life”

But what if I don’t know what that is? What if I don’t have a passion or a hobby? Am I doomed to a passionless life!?

At least now I know I am not alone. A couple days later, my colleague who confessed she had no hobby forced herself to workout and then texted me to tell me that her body is rejecting the exercise and she can no longer move. But, hey– at least she tried right?

I think it’s important that I keep trying new things in search for the hobby that sticks so that I don’t become complacent in my life and settle. I might be still in search for my hobby, but the journey finding one isn’t all that bad and it has at least given me a few laughs along the way.

Do you have a hobby that you are really passionate about, or are you still in search of that one true passion? Tell me about it in the comments down below!


12 thoughts on “Confessions of a Hobbyless Person

  1. I agree that it’s good to hear others have a tough time nailing down a hobby too! Makes me feel waaaaay better about it.

    That being said, I like going on instructables and looking at some different things to do every now and then – when I have enough time, I want to build some cool things with Arduino!

    This is a sweet project – keep doing your thing 🙂

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  2. Over the years I have allowed work to consume my life and have given up all my hobbies – sewing, needlepoint, reading, riding a bike, knitting. It’s time to change that. I will make a point to pick up one of those hobbies. Thanks for the inspiration. Pat

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  3. I can totally relate to feeling frustrated when hearing the advice “find what you’re really passionate about, and do that for work”. I think that mind frame is what led me to multiple different post education courses and schools only to end up doing administrative and customer service work for an industry I’m definitely not passionate about HA! I think if you can find passion in other aspects of your life, then you can lead a happier life. For instance, I am passionate about making small differences in people’s lives – whether it be an extra smile or hello to a stranger, a “pay-it-forward”, or daily “good morning I love you” texts to my parents. Passion doesn’t have to be a BIG glamorous thing, sometimes it’s hidden in little areas less thought about.

    Also, perhaps your hobby is trying different hobbies? Which, can be ideal all in itself. You are actually a hobby-ist?

    Can’t wait for the next read.

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  4. Hi Pennee. I really enjoyed reading this, And like you and many others this hit the truth for me ten fold. I tried for so long to find something outside of work that I really enjoyed doing. The gym stuck with me for about 3 solid years, then work became more demanding and I stopped going. I have to ask though; is finding a hobby going to bring happiness? Maybe just what your doing is leaving you content enough? The gym did make me happy but I don’t crave it to keep making me happy. I enjoy the little things in life, like those evenings with friends or a simple day time walk in the park. I know working with children makes me super happy but we all have our down days and I think that its all how we cope and deal with those days that make us who we are. I believe that no one can truly make us happy but ourselves and we need to paint our lives the way we want; and yes can’t we just be happy with how things are if we cannot change the situation at that moment in our life. It sounds condradicting I know. Its hard to explain. I think its all how our mind set is. Trying to think positive. Who you hang around with sometimes has an effect on you wether negative or positive. I also must say when my partner see’s me unhappy he trys his best to cheer me up but he can only push so hard and now its up to me to hold up head up high and get through my low day. Now it is on me!

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  5. I like writing..fiction…taking the frustrating, dumb, stoopid things in real life and turning them into happy endings..where good girls and guys win..and “they” get their comeuppance…at least on the page!…but it’s been awhile..this post has inspired me to get back at it..soon…;-)…looks like writing may be your unhobby too!!

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  6. Hi Pennee,
    Knowing you as I do, I hardly consider you to be passionless! Although you may not have a hobby, you show passion and expertise in your work and role, at least every time I work with you that is what I see. I am passionate about my work too although frustrated by circumstances sometimes! And I do have hobbies, reading, knitting, learning about and enjoying wine to name a few but work often leaves little time for them. I am going to make a greater effort to do some of those things and spend more time with my husband, who’s retired now! I think a hobby is something you often enjoy in spare time and you can be passionate about it, but you can be passionate about many other things too! You’re the best! 💗

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